When abandonment issues bring fear and stress with (or instead of) love and bonding, there are five crucial steps for healing.
Abandonment issues make it quite difficult to have fullfilling relationships. Going through life with UNfulfilling relationships is NOT necessary.
Fear of abandonment often creates patterns
where you attract "abandoners".
Or you become one.
The real kick in the pants is that fear and insecurity become the reality you live, become a self-fulfilling prophesy, become the fatal flaw in what may be real love.
What happens in your body when you feel fear?
• I freeze or go numb
• I worry a lot
• I don't play/be fun
• I escape/avoid
• I'm tense
• I'm too serious
• I stop breathing
• I'm tied in knots
• I attack
Pause and take a look at yourself, a compassionate look. See yourself struggling and how it affects your life - your sense of self, your ability to feel whole. Your ability to have happy, inter-dependent relationships. Your ability to attract fully available people.
What would you like to change about this condition within you? How would you changing from the inside out affect your life, happiness, well-being? Do you realize that change is possible? Do you feel like you've already tried everything?
Here's a big one - try it for a moment -
Imagine a couple lounging on a picnic. They are gazing sweetly, lovingly, at each other. They are completely relaxed and simply enjoying the moment, much like one does when looking at a baby or puppy. Just sweet happiness in the other, in their connection, in the moment.
Is that kind of moment something you relate to for yourself? The sweetness of love? Of eye gazing? Heart opening? Warmth? Relaxation? Happiness just to be and be with another? To enjoy and be enjoyed?
What gets in the way of that for you? Would you like to experience deep changes around that? Do you know that you can? I do...I know that for you. It happens all the time. Your wounds, your abandonment issues, your fears, they are part of being human and the changes you can realize are, too.
is it that keeps creating painful relationships? Or blocks them from the start? The answer is unique to each person. Yet at the same time, there are many
common issues that we share.
Which negative beliefs support your abandonment issues?
are thoughts that you take to be true...and of course, they do seem
true. Your beliefs have a huge (and I mean HUGE) influence on your
experiences. However, your beliefs and experiences CAN CHANGE.
If you seek to break a pattern you see in your self, you will have to go deeper than romantic relationships. It is likely a pattern that began in your childhood.
I had no idea that I had these sorts of issues until my late 40s - in my THIRD marriage! Isn't it odd, how something so deep and painful, that colored my entire life, was invisible to me?
Intense feelings around abandonment trigger unconscious survival reactions. Very painful, uncontrollable reactions.
It doesn't get much bigger than this. These issues are entwined with being HUMAN. We are built to bond! A lot of suffering revolves around bonding and even if you were never "technically" abandoned, there are countless ways that life and relationships create insecure women and men.
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that go directly to the heart of problems and get you moving in a better
Each session resolves and releases what holds your negative patterns in place (mentally, physically, emotionally, and energetically.)
Each session shifts you on a deep, root level into aligning what you need and want -- so you live it and attract it with much more ease.About Me
By Laura Frisbie,
M.Ed., C.R.R.P., Holistic Personal Growth Relationship Therapist
I do not accept insurance because I am a Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner. I do not work with mental illness or offer treatments for severe depression. Published content, sessions, webinars, etc., are not a substitute for psychiatric treatment.