How to Heal Your
Abandonment Issues

When abandonment issues bring fear and stress with (or instead of) love and bonding, there are five crucial steps for healing.

  1. Identify the earlier experiences that underlie your issues. 
  2. Identify your beliefs, feelings, and unmet needs that formed in connection with those earlier experiences. 
  3. Build the new, life-enhancing, coherent beliefs, feelings, and needs that will bring you inner power and deep, lasting growth.
  4. Create a "shift" in your energy field from the old to the new. This requires more than the usual "talking-thinking-learning-problem-solving" of your left brain.
  5. Become empowered by WHO YOU ARE. Connect with your genuine power and potential. Know that change is possible. Shift what you resonate with. I do this with people a lot like you every day. It works! It is SO very do-able (with the right process.)

Abandonment issues make it quite difficult to have fullfilling relationships. Going through life with UNfulfilling relationships is NOT necessary.

Fear of abandonment often creates patterns 
where you attract "abandoners". 
Or you become one.

The real kick in the pants is that fear and insecurity become the reality you live, become a self-fulfilling prophesy, become the fatal flaw in what may be real love. 

What happens in your body when you feel fear?
• I freeze or go numb
• I worry a lot
• I don't play/be fun
• I escape/avoid
• I'm tense
• I'm too serious
• I stop breathing 
• I'm tied in knots
• I attack

Pause and take a look at yourself, a compassionate look. See yourself struggling and how it affects your life - your sense of self, your ability to feel whole. Your ability to have happy, inter-dependent relationships. Your ability to attract fully available people.

Healing your
abandonment issues
is key to enjoying life.

What is it that keeps creating painful relationships? Or blocks them from the start? The answer is unique to each person. Yet at the same time, there are many common issues that we share.

Which negative beliefs support your abandonment issues?

Beliefs are thoughts that you take to be true...and of course, they do seem true. Your beliefs have a huge (and I mean HUGE) influence on your experiences. However, your beliefs and experiences CAN CHANGE.

If you seek to break a pattern you see in your self, you will have to go deeper than romantic relationships. It is likely a pattern that began in your childhood. 

I had no idea that I had these sorts of issues until my late 40s - in my THIRD marriage! Isn't it odd, how something so deep and painful, that colored my entire life, was invisible to me? 

Intense feelings around abandonment trigger unconscious survival reactions. Very painful, uncontrollable reactions.

It doesn't get much bigger than this. These issues are entwined with being HUMAN. We are built to bond! A lot of suffering revolves around bonding and even if you were never "technically" abandoned, there are countless ways that life and relationships create insecure women and men.

The truth is...most of us have a hurt, insecure inner child.  Your issues are rooted in the experience and reality of life...

Life Is Abandoning 
Think about it

“I’m doing another session because it’s the only thing I’ve found that actually does anything.”  A.T., Attorney, Australia

By Laura Frisbie, M.Ed.